I Can't Fix You
I cannot understand why you did not call
I really don't get why you don't see me as the ONE person you should be with
I don't think you need to go over there to find something that completes you
I do respect that you have a family connection there
I think you should do whatever your heart leads you to
I do know your heart led you to me
I know relationships should be easy
I refuse to deal with your emotional drama that you create
I know you were right when you said the others could offer nothing I could not
I know I was right when I told you that was true
I don't think it is fair to anyone to try and pursue anything further
I know that you know I deserve better from you
I can't fix you
I don't have the time, effort, or ability to fix you
I know this is your loss
I really don't get why you don't see me as the ONE person you should be with
I don't think you need to go over there to find something that completes you
I do respect that you have a family connection there
I think you should do whatever your heart leads you to
I do know your heart led you to me
I know relationships should be easy
I refuse to deal with your emotional drama that you create
I know you were right when you said the others could offer nothing I could not
I know I was right when I told you that was true
I don't think it is fair to anyone to try and pursue anything further
I know that you know I deserve better from you
I can't fix you
I don't have the time, effort, or ability to fix you
I know this is your loss
posted by Booster MPS at
9:55 PM
1 Comments:
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you make it out of the shadows and back into the sunlight soon. I have the feeling this will turn into a long winded comment(s)...
I have been hearing this a lot lately the search for someone to "complete you." There isn't someone who will complete you. You need to complete yourself. You deserve someone who is complete and who's qualities are magnified by the relationship and who's qualities magnify yours.
I have to disagree, a relationship worth having isn't easy but it is worth it. Think about all your "good" friends. You have had your fights, disagreements and misunderstandings. Easy is walking away. Hard is growing and strengthening the relationship. Infatuation, smit (as in smitten) and love are not different.
Drama is hard. Personally, I think boring (or lack of drama) is good. But if drama is part of their personality, part of who they are, then you can either accept it and deal with it or end the relationship.
It may seem true, but saying others could offer nothing you could not is bordering on mean. (I hope it was said in the heat in passion.) And it isn't true. You offer you. You are unique (just like everyone else). There is not another you anywhere in the world. For good or for bad, you are the sum of your experience. I can't become you by jumping out of planes and the rest of the things you do. I already have my baggage. It makes me - me. And I like me.
I hate these words: "I don't think it is fair to anyone to try and pursue anything further." I have said them. I have had them said to me.
You deserve the best the person has to offer. That may not be enough. I said to Phain last week, that the hardest "thing" for me to find is a potential partner who is at the "same place" in there life while being physically and emotionally appealing. That lead to her Trifecta post. This person may be the right person, it just may not be the right time.
You can't fix people. You can't fix anyone but yourself. I'm not really sure that you can help someone fix themselves. It is an internal process that comes with time and experience and introspection.
It is also your loss. You obviously wanted to be in their life. I believe the biggest mistake my ex-wife ever made was not trying to save the marriage (I am not saying not "trying harder", I am saying she didn't try). The subtle difference between the situations is that I no longer wanted her in my life. I don't trust her and that is a vital component to any relationship.
As they say in Vegas, "Good luck, sir."
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