He Said, She Said, Or Did They?

Sunday November 16^th 2003

She said: Just talk to me. If there is something that you need to say you can tell me.

He said: I don’t know, I don’t know what to say……

Communication. If there is one thing that I have learned about relationships is that communication is key. I learned that lesson the hard way that morning sitting on my bed with her. All I had to do was take the chance. Open up. Let her in. Give it a chance. I had the words in my mouth, and on my tongue, yet they would not come out. I literally could not speak and I have no idea why, words simply would not come to me.

I have seen this play out over and over again, and yet again this past weekend which has prompted my memory on this subject. The learning in the lesson is that if relationships do not have a basis of open and honest communication, the relationship is doomed to fail. Granted we do not walk in day one, walls down and hearts open, but finding that common ground is key. Looking back, I can now see how so many things with me that I “thought” were the problem were not the problem but simply artifacts and symptoms of the elephant in the room. The elephant’s name was “Communication”.

I really hope these guys can work it out.